Self-Love Is Not About Vanity

Whenever I write about the topic of self-love, there is always a question in the back of my mind about "how much" self-love is still considered "healthy" or "appropriate", and at what point does self-love border on vanity, arrogance, or being "full of" oneself. What I would like to propose to you is that self-love is not about vanity. It is not about thinking you are perfect and amazing and your sh*t doesn't stink. It is not about selfishness or ego or thinking you are "better" than anyone.

Self-love is ACTUALLY about self-acceptance, self-respect, self-compassion, self-confidence, self-care and self-improvement. It is about humility, and it is about a commitment to yourself. We are truly loving ourselves when we accept ourselves fully, for our strengths and our flaws. We are truly loving ourselves when we show ourselves respect and compassion. We are truly loving ourselves when we believe in ourselves and talk to ourselves like we would to someone we love. We are truly loving ourselves when we are taking care of our needs. And finally, we are truly loving ourselves when we are continually working toward improvement and growth. Certainly, we cannot really move forward and grow as a person if we are not loving ourselves enough to engage in self-care, and/or we are fixated on the things we dislike about ourselves or putting ourselves down. On the other side of the equation, we cannot really move forward if we pretend to believe that we are perfect and amazing and wonderful and always right about everything, because then we are failing to acknowledge that there is always room for improvement.

Your beauty lies in your uniqueness and your potential for continuous growth. Don't forget to be yourself and love yourself. Self-love means being true to who you are and taking care of yourself. It means being gentle and kind to yourself when you need encouragement, and whipping your own butt when you need a push. Remember that true and healthy self-love takes daily effort, no matter who you are! 

xoxo Allison

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